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Friday, January 30, 2009

How can I Get my Ex Back with a Confident Attitude

Magic of Making Up

Although a breakup with a boyfriend or with a girlfriend can be really depressing, it does not need to mean that the relationship is over. Even if the breakup should suddenly leave you feeling confusion and loneliness, you may still feel really eager to heal the wounds and jump right back in to that relationship with your ex. If you are asking yourself "How can I get my ex back?", then there are some things you need to know. If you learn how to react following a break up, and you become aware of how not to strain the relationship even further, then getting ex back will be easier than ever.

It can seem hard to keep up a cheerful attitude throughout your day following a breakup, but it is believed by relationship experts believe that an optimistic and confident attitude can go a long way. Here are some of the ways that a confident attitude can answer the question "how can I get my ex back?"

Keep your confidence - If you are asking "how can I get my ex back?", then you should remain confident. Rather than going around feeling gloomy, try to find ways that you can keep yourself occupied and happy. Keep the depression out of your demeanor. Allow your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to know that you are strong and that you are more than capable of handling such an emotional situation, and also that you are capable of surviving on your own as well.

Remain socially active - If getting your ex back is your primary focus, surround yourself with well wishers, positive attitudes and good friends. Show your ex that people appreciate you, and that they love having you around. As more people begin to feel good about your presence in their lives, your ex will begin to see you in a completely new light. He or she will realize that yes, you are a good person that they simply cannot afford to let go of. This is one of the best ways to let your ex notice you in a new light.

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Maintain a good appearance - Another solution to "How can I get my ex back?" is not to let your appearance reflect your situation. You need to pay attention to every detail of your looks, including your clothes, your make up, your hair, your stride, your shoes and even your voice. It can be hard to act happy or to take care of yourself following a bad breakup, but this is one of the best ways that you can let your ex know that you are doing just fine, and do not need to beg for his or her sympathy. You are going to get back together like adults who are mature and responsible if you are going to get back together at all.

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Thursday, January 29, 2009

How to Get Back Togther with My Ex in 3 Steps

How to Get Back Together with My Ex in 3 Steps

Have you just recently experienced a break up, and you are wondering "how can I get back together with my exĂ®? You may want to score your ex back immediately, and this is a common feeling that everyone experiences.

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You can find yourself following into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.

What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"

Step 1 - How to get back with my ex: Accept the Break Up!

First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin/. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.

Step 2 - How to get back with my ex: Do not contact your ex!

Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. You should cut communication off with him or her so that there can be some "thinking time". This may seem counterintuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.

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This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let them realize how important you were to them.

Step 3 - How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together

Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.

"How to get back with my ex?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.

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Save Your Christian Marriage

Thursday 01-29-2009

Dear Friend in Christ:

You have found this site in a search to heal your marriage. Your marriage is not where it should or could be. Perhaps it is even headed for divorce. You may be in great pain, feeling the constant agony of a crippled relationship. It may be that you see the writing on the wall, or perhaps your spouse has even said it: your marriage is headed straight into the ground! You may have given up all hope. Maybe you are terrified, but still hopeful.

I am here to tell you that it can change. In fact, I am here to tell you that your marriage can not only be restored, but can actually become the marriage of your dreams! You really are married to your soul-mate!

Do You Recognize the 9 Early Warning
Signs of Pending Marital Disaster?

Let’s Take A Quick Quiz About Your Marriage
Answer the questions below to see where things are right now.

1) Do you find yourself frustrated with your marriage, trying to make changes, only to find you are right back into the same old pattern?
Yes No

2) Do you or your spouse frequently think about getting out of the marriage?
Yes No

3) Are you and your spouse frequently engaged in an argument, often about nothing of importance, and find that there are rarely solutions?
Yes No

4) Are you convinced that this is relationship is not what God would want, but don’t know how to make a change for the better?
Yes No

5) Do you find yourself arriving at the same conclusion: “We just can’t communicate”?
Yes No

6) Do you find yourself shocked that you were ever attracted to someone so different? Or conversely, do you think the big problem is that you are just too much alike for it to work?
Yes No

7) Do you frequently find yourself feeling either unloved or disrespected?
Yes No

8) Do you wonder how or if this crazy cycle can ever be ended?
Yes No

9) Would you love to find a solution to these problems that would move your relationship to a healthy, Godly place?
Yes No

If you checked any “Yes” responses to the above questions, it is time to really look at what is going on in your relationship.

If You Don’t Act Now,
You’ll Regret It Later!

It’s just too easy to do nothing. And then another day, week, month, then year passes with only worsening issues. Or a letter from an attorney arrives!

Let’s face it: we live in a culture that constantly calls us away from our marriage. In fact, we live in a society that not only approves of divorce, it makes it easy to get.

But together, you and I can work to change that, saving one marriage at a time, starting with yours! Actually, it will be you, me, and God making that change possible.

Did you know that the rate of divorce among Christians is actually HIGHER than the general population? I can’t begin to tell you how surprised I was to hear this! We are a people called to be faithful, to be forgiving, to be loving. . . and we end marriages more often than the general public. That trend must stop! Let’s agree to change this fact, you and I working together to renew your marriage.

Divorce and broken marriages is not God’s plan. God’s plan was for marriage to be a lifetime. As I’m sure you have heard often, in Genesis 2:24, God tells us that “for this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife. And the two people will become one body.” When we become one body, it is a forever thing.

Where is your relationship? Is it where you want it to be? Is it where your spouse wants it to be? Is it where God wants it to be?

What Are Your Options?

You see, you really have only three choices:

1. You can live with things the way they are. . . Suffer
2. You can just get out of the whole thing. . . Divorce
3. You can change the marriage for the better.

OK, I have my prejudices. Obviously, 1) isn’t working. You have already decided against that, the proof being that you found your way to this website! And 2) isn’t much of an option for those of us who believe God’s Word. So, the best answer is 3), accomplished of course, with God’s help.

If you are like most people, you have tried to make changes, tried to figure things out, and maybe even saw a little improvement here and there. But things just seem to either drift back to the way they were or get worse!

Do You Make These Mistakes?

Do you find yourself:

1. Arguing with your spouse to try to get them to see your point, while they argue back to get you to see their point? (Neither of you will win.)
2. Ignoring the situation, hoping time will heal? (It will only make it worse.)
3. Trying to manipulate your spouse into going your way? (You become dishonest.)
4. Reading books on male/female differences, new sex techniques, communication skills, or self-esteem? (They have no long-term effectiveness.)
5. Praying to God, hoping for an answer? (Good start, and there is an answer!)

“Thank God I Found You!”

writes Susan Johnson of Colorado. She says:

“I was at the end of the line with my marriage! First, we neglected our marriage for years. It just withered away. Then one day, I got a wake-up call! My husband had cheated on me.

I didn’t know where to turn, but I started looking for information on how to save my marriage. There is a lot of stuff out there that is just psychological mumbo jumbo. My faith is important to me, and I don’t take my vows lightly.

Dr. Baucom, I found your site, by the Grace of God, and your information has turned my marriage and my life around. I feel closer to my husband than ever before, and now God is a part of our marriage. We still have more to go, but we will make it! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!”

The Christian’s Way To
Save Your Marriage

Let’s face it: marriage is a challenge! There is no way around that. But it is a challenge with enormous payoffs in the end. That is God’s plan. Marriages teach us to be better Christians, if we allow it.

Unfortunately, too many times, we take the easy way out. That has been my frustration for many years. I have seen couple after couple end their marriage for the wrong reason.

This led me on a journey to discover what marriage was about, from a Biblical perspective, and how to use a person’s Christian faith to bring the marriage back together.

My first discovery was that modern psychology was exacerbating the problem! While attempting to help, psychology was doing great harm to marriages. In fact, the statistics were appalling. Did you know that less than 50% of marriages that go to therapy stay together? And only 10-20% of people in marital therapy report any improvement.

Imagine that: you go to a doctor, and he tells you that you need surgery. But you have less than a 50/50 chance of survival. And if you do survive, only a 10 to 20% chance of improving. Who in their right mind would go through with surgery? Yet many, many couples end up in therapy each year. And when therapy doesn’t help, they decide that the marriage must really be over.

I knew there had to be better answers. . . and there were, right there in my Christian beliefs. I just had to take those beliefs, use them in real practice, and create a practical approach that is founded in faith.

For over 17 years, I have worked to discover, practice, and perfect this approach. Now, I am ready to offer this to you!

God has given us the tools we need to build strong marriages, to become “One Flesh.” But it takes study, discernment, and practice to bring this approach to fruition. You can take your beliefs, faith, and relationship to God to build your relationship. I will show you how!

What Every Christian Ought To
Know About Marriage,
And How To Save Yours

I have spent the last couple of years taking all my material, honing it down, polishing it off, and creating a format that you can use to save your own Christian marriage. All that effort is now available, for the first time, for you. But you must act now, not because the material won’t be here, but because your marriage may not.

You see, the biggest mistake most people make in the midst of a marital crisis is to wait too long. People think that time might heal all wounds. (It may, but only if you know how to help the process along!)

I decided to make this material available to you in the simplest, most direct, and easiest format. I created an ebook that contains all the information you need in order to use your Christian faith to save your marriage.

SaveYourChristianMarriage_This material is available to anyone reading this website. In fact, I am making sure you can get it with absolutely no risk to yourself or anyone else! I promise that if you use this information, and if you approach your marriage prayerfully, your marriage WILL BE SAVED!

If you are not familiar with an ebook, it is simply an “electronic book.” You download it to your computer, or PDA, or Pocket PC, or an Ebook Reader.

The advantage is that you can get the information, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the world. No waiting for the book to arrive, no trips to try to find the information.

You only need to take action. In fact, you can be saving your marriage in less than 10 minutes, even if you are computer illiterate.

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•The Top 5 Mistakes people make when a crisis arises.
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•How to assess the stage of your crisis (there are 8).
•How to address any stage of a crisis and turn it around.
•What to do, what to say, and what to avoid in order to save your
•Why Christians should and could have a “leg-up” in dealing with problems in your marriage.
•Why “hard work” on the relationship isn’t always the answer.
•How marriage counseling can be dangerous to your marriage’s future.
•Why “low mood therapy” is destined for failure and how “high mood relating” makes the difference.
•How to move beyond emotions and take action!
•How to find the North Star of your relationship, and why it matters.
•Why true intimacy is a lot closer than you think--and how to get there!
•What the TIE Elements of Communication are, and how they can transform your communication.
•How to change the momentum of a relationship, sometimes instantaneously!
•What the Practices of Marriage are, and how they can transform your relationship.
•Why arguing is a waste of time -- and the amazingly simple secret to get around it.
•How to become a team, even if you feel like opposites.
•Why power is so destructive to relationships and how to change it.
•How to deal with problems involving sex or money -- and how to bring God into those areas.
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The secrets of a successful marriage are universal. I have spent the better part of 20 years discovering them, validating them, and finding Scriptural support for them.

“What A Blessing. . .”

writes Gregor Haynes of Massachusetts. He says:

“My wife of 25 years announced a month ago that she loved me, but was not ‘in love’ with me. She said she had to get out.

I didn’t know what to do, so I prayed. Then I decided that it was up to me to keep this marriage together. I searched the internet and found you.

After just a week of using your information, I could see my wife begin to change before my eyes. We have a long way to go, but I know we will make it. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!”

“I Was Doing
Everything Wrong. . .”

writes Becky Raeford of Georgia. She says:

When my husband told me he was not happy, I was so upset, I could hardly think straight. As it turns out, I did everything wrong. Your list of the Top 5 things I should not do in the middle of a marriage crisis, I did all 5!

My husband was moving further and further away! He was packing his bags to move out when a friend sent me to your site. It must have been an angel, because you gave me everything I needed to stop the process.

I am so excited that we are getting back on course! In fact, I think the marriage crisis may end up being the best thing that ever happened to us. Our relationship is finally genuine, and is under God’s leadership.”

Will YOUR Marriage Be
The Next To Change. . . For The Better?

It can, but it will take your action! I often hear from people who tell me that they have been praying and praying to God for something to change in their marriage, but nothing gets better.

Do you remember the story of the man at the well of Bethesda (John 5)? I love the story because this poor man had been laying beside a healing pool, but is unable to be healed because he can’t get in the water. Jesus asks: “do you want to be healed?” Part of what is behind this question is how desperate is the man for healing? Does he just say the words or does he take action?

It is time for you to ask the question: do you want your marriage healed? Praying is the beginning point. Taking action is the next. Now is the time to take action.

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“I had almost thrown in the towel, too. But it just seemed to go against all my beliefs. I couldn’t find any peace about ending the marriage.

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That’s right. I actually guarantee that my methods will save your marriage. Give me at least a month, and I will give you the marriage of your dreams!star1

If you will, in good faith, use the material I give you for at least 1 month, I will guarantee you results! You have up to 2 months to request a refund, if it doesn’t work.

I offer the refund this way for two reasons: first, the methods do need some time to work. Even though the methods are simple and direct, they need some time to create a change. Second, studies show that at least 85% of all “self-help” books bought are never read. Good advice that is not given a chance is of little help. So, I have designed my book for people who are ready to take action, not just have a book on the nightstand!

Think of it this way: you have absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain. If you use my material, and nothing changes, you can ask for a refund (One Caveat: if you take advantage of the email consultation, you are no longer eligible for a refund. This is to fairly compensate me for my time.) If you try and succeed, you will have a great gift: the marriage you want!

I am taking all the risk! So even if you aren’t ready to decide whether to save your marriage or not, take a chance! Grab the material, give it a try, and see what happens. If nothing changes (in my experience, not likely), you are out nothing. The destiny of your marriage is in your hands.


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I firmly believe that every marriage deserves a chance. Join me in saving your marriage beginning today! I look forward to hearing about your success! Please don’t wait.

Best wishes.

Rev. Lee H. Baucom, M.Div., Th.M., Ph.D.

P.S.: Remember, you can save your marriage, using your Christian faith, and you can get started within the next 5 minutes!

P.P.S.: You can try it with NO RISK to you! I am guaranteeing your results. I am providing you with the information you need, am offering direct help to you, will be praying for you. . . the only thing I can’t do is get you to take the first step! Won’t you do that now?

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Friday, January 23, 2009

What Can I do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

What Can I do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back
Magic of Making Up

Most people find themselves asking "What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

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Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don't over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things.

Magic of Making Up

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out "what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back". Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Magic of Making Up

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further? Is this describing your situation to a tee? Are you asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" at every turn? Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally. It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

Magic of Making Up

Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, stop! If you are asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to stop doing these things right now.

So What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Follow this strategy instead.

You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach. Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.

During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.

You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear mysterious and he will be reminded why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"

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The Secret to Get Your Ex To Return Your Calls

Todays Secret Is...

Okay, so you're having a little problem getting
that certain someone to return your emails or
phone calls or text messages and it's driving you crazy!

Don't you wish that there were some sort of 'magic'
that, if you spoke them, would have your ex actually return your calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.

How sweet is that?...

And you're not alone! I have over 35,000 subscribers
and this topic is always at the top from the
folks that just want to put their lives and
relationships back together.

Today, you and I are going to share a little 'secret'.

Today, I'm going to share with you the 'secret' answer
to..."They just won't return my whatever (email, phone call,etc.)"



In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay
out a complete strategy.

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Now, you need to be very careful using this one
technique because you don't want to ruin any
chances of rebuilding the relationship. And if
you don't have a 'complete' strategy in place
they may NEVER return your phone call.

What NOT to Say!

Now, before we sail into the actual words to
use, let's review the type of message that will
NEVER work and almost always puts you in
a TERRIBLE 'psychological' frame of mind.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."


"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'


Let's look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.


Before you call you need to do the
"Set Up"...which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to
be plausible.

But more importantly...


Please have an underlying strategy
like I lay out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.

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If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.


What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==> Magic of Making Up

Rooting For You,